In fact, when you start to look closely into the secret of sadness, it actually states taht happiness is the root cause of all sadness.
You can never experience sorrow without first experiencing happiness or and displeasure without contentment.
Happiness and sadness are just 2 sides of the same coin. They come together and they will be together. One follows the other.
All sadness and sorrows arise from your misconception of happiness. To be more accurate, your wrong preception of your lost happiness.
Now think about it carefully. Can happiness really be lost? Is it really true that our "lost" happiness can never be acquired back and experienced again?
The truth is, those happy moments and experiences are not lost and never are.
What you have lost is in fact the source of it. Not the happiness itself.
For example you are just fired from a job you really, really like. How do you feel? Sad!
So what are you really sad about? It is because of the job or it is because of other issues like having to leave your kind and helpful colleagues? Your passion for the job? The fulfillment you get from the job?
When you really start to look into it, you will start to find that what you have really lost or what you missed is not the source of the happiness. You are in fact missing the good feeling or positive emotion you obtain from them.
Therefore by constantly focusing your attention on the source of your happiness and your lost of it, you will not be going anywhere but continuously feeling sad for your perceived loses, happiness.
It may be true that you have lost the source of it; however you have never lost that happiness. You just have to look for it at a different place.
When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.
~~ Helen Keller ~~
Now I am not saying that you shouldn't feel sad over someone's death or over the lost of something you missed dearly.
What I am trying to say is that sadness should not be used as an excuse for you to indulge in self-pity and self sympathy.
What I learn from the secret of sadness is that sadness in fact is another way you express your gratitude and appreciation for the thing, person or event which bring you your happiness.
You feel sad because you miss the good old times, joy and laughter you had, acknowledging the fact that you will not be receiving your happiness anytime soon from them.
In addition, you also recognize the fact that your happiness is in fact not all lost. You just have to move forward and keep looking.
Therefore rather than constantly looking at the closed door and hoping that it will be opened up for you again, why not focuse your attention on the present and start looking for new and more interesting opportunities that are sure to come your way?
Remember the secret of sadness? Happiness is never lost. You just have to keep looking in front you not and not get blinded by your past perceived "lost".
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Fall Meeting October 30 -31 & Novermber 1 - 2 , 2010
We welcome anybody that wants to start a Withdraw Center or wants to join the Oregon Coastal Center. There are no dues, fees or costs.
We will be holding two identical Sessions this fall. One session on the weekend and one during the week. Both Sessions will be about our experiences with our Peaceful Preparer Center, our plans, our dreams, our fears, and brainstorming.
There is no charge for either Session if you provide your own lodging. If you want to stay at the meeting resort, the following is the pricing for Eagle Crest lodging.
We ARE NOT “back to landers.” We do not want the hardships of homestead. Instead, we like our comforts and are willing to prepare for them to continue. That is why we have picked the Eagle Crest Resort for our First Annual Fall Meeting. The Eagle Crest Resort has all the comforts you want in a resort. Just check the features of Eagle Crest Resort
If two people want to share a bedroom, then both can attend the Sessions with no additional fees. The bedrooms vary with king size beds, queen size beds and twin beds.
The early bird gets their choice.
Session # I - October 30 - 31, 2010 2 nights ($100/night*) - Starts on Friday night October 30 at 7 pm and last until 11 am on Sunday November 1, 2010.
Session #2 - November 1 - 2, 2010 - 2 nights ($100/night*) - This part starts on Sunday night and 7 pm and last until Wednesday at 11 am.
*Lodging Scholarships are available.
The above fees include lodging at the Eagle Crest at Redmond, Oregon (11 miles from Bend, Oregon)
