The Orange Trangle in the above image points to the RESPONDIVE TEMPERAMENTS which move toward thinking. They are: Temperament 1 – The members of this Temperament are moving toward right thinking. Correct behavior is a result of knowing what is right and what is wrong. This knowing is obvious to the member, yet not obvious to others. From the member's perspective it's not the member who is determining what is right, it's simply an absolute unquestioned obvious about what is right. Doing is preferred to thinking. We call members of this Temperament - Reformer – Perfectionists. Temperament One examples are: Hillary Clinton, Tom Brokaw, Martha Stewart, Al Gore, and Tony Randall. These people want to be good. They have high ideals and value and are attracted to situations where those ideals are met. They want to realize all their potential and help others actualize theirs. They envision making the world a better place to live. Temperament 2 – The members of this Temperament are moving toward the thinking of others. Anticipating the needs of others can arise from knowing what others are thinking. There's a habit of assuming the image or emotions that will please others. To this member, this doesn't seem like manipulation, it's simply finding the right approach to make that emotional connection that seems so vital. Feeling is preferred to thinking. We call members of this Temperament - Giver – Helpers. Temperament Two examples are: Bill Cosby, Alan Alda, Nancy Reagan, Dolly Parton, and Pat Boone. These people want to know they are loving. They want to nurture others and foster relationships. They value and are attracted to love. They envision making the world a more loving place to live. Temperament 6 – The members of this Temperament are moving toward the thinking of an authority. This member questions their own thinking and the thinking of others. The quest is for a trusting source of reason and rules. If the member can find a reliable and trusted source of thinking then the questioning, doubt, and resulting anxiety may fade. Trusting is preferred to thinking (to say it another way, the preference is to trust the thinking of an authority, but the difficulty lies in finding a trustworthy authority). We call members of this Temperament - Loyal – Skeptics. Temperament Six examples are: Helen Palmer, Michael Moore, Tom Hanks, Rush Limbaugh, Richard Nixon, and Mel Gibson. These people want to make the world a safer, more secure, more reliable, more trustworthy place to live and they will question anyone’s authority in their effort to do so. They value loyalty in themselves and others and stand by their commitments. Would You Like Help to Determine your Temperament?

Twos, will: Do that for you * What Is Emotional Intelligence

What is Emotional Intelligence?   
Tristan Loo

Emotional intelligence, also known as EI, is the innate ability of a person to perceive, assess, and influence one's own emotion and the emotions of other people around them. The term emotional intelligence itself originated with Dr. Wayne Payne 1985, but the term became popular with the book Emotional Intelligence, written by Daniel Goldman in 1995.
Studies in the early 1990's by John Mayer and Peter Salovey came up with a working model of emotional intelligence that defined it as the capacity to understand and to reason with emotions. In their analysis, Mayer and Salovey, broke emotional intelligence down into four parts:
1. Self Awareness: the ability and need to understand your own emotions, knowing what those emotions are, and acknowledging those feelings.

2. Need Management: that is the ability to handle emotions in a mature way that is relevant to the present situation.
3. Self Motivation: the ability to remain focused on a goal despite your level of self-doubt and impulsiveness.
4. Empathy: the ability to tune into the feelings of others and effectively understanding them pretty much the same way as they understand themselves.
5. Managing relationships: the ability to handle conflict negotiations and third party mediations.
Why is emotional intelligence important?
Despite the fact that emotional intelligence lacks the volume of quantitative empirical cognitive research that IQ has, the research in the field of cognitive learning has suggested that emotional intelligence is a key fundamental aspect of learning. According to a report published by the National Center for Clinical Infant Programs, the level of success that a student has learning new material boils down to their individual levels of confidence, self-control, curiosity, their ability to communicate, their cooperativeness, their elatedness and their intentionality. All these traits are aspects of emotional intelligence.
More recently social scientists are beginning to uncover the relationship of emotional intelligence to other organizational psychologies, such as leadership, group performance, individual performance, interpersonal exchange, performance evaluations, and change management. Humans are social beings and as such our level of success when dealing with people is intimately linked with our level of emotional intelligence.
Improving your level of emotional intelligence
Researches and scientists see the intelligence quotient, also known as I.Q., as fixed, meaning that it does not change throughout ones lifetime. E.I. differs greatly from I.Q. in that E.I. can be improved through a combination of life experience, maturity, conscious thought, and perseverance. You can improve your level of emotional intelligence by doing the following:
1. Think back to the most recent time you can think of when you had hurt somebody's feelings and analyze what your reactions were at the time and analyze what you said that inflicted emotional pain on the other person. Try to put yourself in the other person's shoes and empathize with them and their feelings as you said these words. In this drill, you will effectively increase your understanding of empathy thereby increasing your level of emotional intelligence as a result.
2. Instead of finding fault with others, develop a mindset of positive thoughts and try to seek positive solutions on a given problem. Remember that everyone you deal with is human and as humans we make mistakes. Also by being human we have the ability to learn from our mistakes and by creating a positive attitude we can effectively coach other people and ourselves to move forward instead of blaming other people or events for mistakes.
3. Realize that in order to succeed in the game called life, it becomes necessary to have a high level of interpersonal communication with those around you. You are, for the most part, helpless without other people to help you along the way. By better understanding their emotional needs you will be able to communicate with them more effectively and more accurately thus paving the way to your own personal success.
In conclusion, emotional intelligence is one's ability to understand their own emotions and also the emotions of the people that are around them. The emotionally intelligent person makes each day of their life a lesson in emotional intelligence and it is their goal to increase their level if emotional intelligence each day as they communicate with other people around them and themselves.

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Tristan Loo is the Founder of the Synergy Institute, a Personal Development Firm based out of San Diego. Tristan is a former police officer, personal development coach, conflict negotiator, and author. Visit the Synergy Institute Website

Temperament Two examples are: Bill Cosby, Alan Alda, Nancy Reagan, Dolly Parton, and Pat Boone. These people want to know they are loving. They want to nurture others and foster relationships. They value and are attracted to love. They envision making the world a more loving place to live. Would You Like Help to Determine your Temperament? Temperament Seven examples are: Robin Williams, Steve Jobs, Tom Hanks, Anthony Quinn, and Terry Bradshaw. These people want to enjoy life and experience all its possibilities. They value joy and variety. They envision making the world a more delightful place to live. Temperament Nine examples are: Barack Obama, Ronald Reagan, Abraham Lincoln, Jimmy Stewart, Carl Jung, and Dwight Eisenhower. These people want to feel at one with others and at home in the universe. They value peace, harmony, and unity. They envision making the world a more harmonious, ecumenical, and comfortable place to live for everyone. Would You Like Help to Determine your Temperament?

Why do we use numbers?

Names such as: Twos, Giver, Caretaker, Helper, Nurturer, or Advisor, are commonly used to decribed the Temperaments Types. We use numbers instead of any names.

We use numbers to designate each of the Temperament Types because numbers are value neutral. They imply the whole range of attitudes and behaviors of each Temperament without specifying anything either positive or negative.

The numerical ranking of the Types is not significant. A larger number is no better than a smaller number.

No Temperament Type is inherently better or worse than any other. While all the Temperament Types have unique assets and liabilities, some Types are often more desirable than others in our society. You may not be happy with your particular Type. You may feel that your Type is “limited" in some way. As you learn more about all the Types, you will see that just as each has unique capacities, each has different “limits.”

People do not change from one basic Temperament Type to another. Some Types are more valued in our society than others; it is because of the qualities that society rewards, not because of any superior value of those Types.

The descriptions of the Temperament Types apply equally to males and females, since no Type is inherently masculine or feminine. Not everything in the description of your basic Type will apply to you all the time because you fluctuate constantly.

What is Barack Obama Temperament?
	Daniel Goldman, author of Emotional Intelligence

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