"Self Deception = Personal Tragedy , Twos Believe, I can make anyone like me"

The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram: Nine Faces of the Soul
by Sandra Maitri

Sandra Maitri's "The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram" is, without doubt, the most insightful and meaningful book on the nine temperaments, but caution potential readers that this is not a "beach read" and is best suited as reading for those who are seriously ready to take a deeper look at their own psycho-spiritual essence and soul. This is not a pop-psychology "personality typing" book, but rather a valuable guide for people on their journey of self-discovery, transformation and self-realization.

The book DOES touch on the Nine Temperaments of the enneagram in the personality type" context most people know it, and it covers the psychological aspects of the different types. The majority of "The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram" is dedicated to a thorough discussion of each of the nine temperaments, examining the way each has "lost touch" with its essence or "Holy Idea;" describing the psychological and environmental circumstances for these losses, and then offering guidance on how to recover the part of the self that has been lost.

The term "sprituality" by no means makes this a "religious" book. Instead, it is a book about understanding and healing our souls, regardless of religious orientation.

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To print a copy of an Free Enneagram ebook

The study of the Nine Temperaments is called the Enneagram and is described in the free ebook listed above. The Enneagram types (Temperaments) are not made up of lists of character traits, but are founded in a person's core values. Each Temperament represents what that person considers something very important to their life such as power, security, harmony, knowledge, fulfillment, i.e.

Your Temperament enables you to make a valuable contributions to your life; but it also causes you to neglect other values, creating a psychological ‘blind spot” for you.

This is why, if you:

“KEEP DOING WHAT YOU BEEN DOING, YOU WILL CONTINUE TO GET WHAT YOU HAVE BEEN GETTING.”

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Self Deception = Personal Tragedy   
Bill Knell

It’s easy to get caught up in self deceit and that’s one of the biggest reasons for problems that we experience in our lives. While no lie is good or acceptable, the worst case scenario is when we start lying to ourselves.

It’s easy to get caught up in self deceit and that’s one of the biggest reasons for problems that we experience in our lives. Most people don’t purposely go out of their way to deceive others. There are those little white lies we tell to avoid hurting people’s feelings, or the ‘I finished that hours ago’ fib we tell our boss to avoid completing an annoying task. While no lie is good or acceptable, the worst case scenario is when we start lying to ourselves.

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Test. It's a four-letter word that can strike fear in some students. In New York, it's also a word that can cause consternation for the test givers teachers and administrators.

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People lie to themselves to justify bad behavior. Every day I receive tons of junk email from people desperate to make money. They want me to invest anywhere from one dollar to thousands in some wild get rich quick scheme they know will hurt thousands and benefit a few. Some even admit it! They talk about being “near the top” on an up or down line, which is scam-speak for those who will make a few bucks before the pyramid collapses.

Self-deception is unhealthy. It places the us in the position of living a lie 24/7 and ultimately catches up with those who do it. Self-deception is also dangerous because it perpetuates delusional thinking. The person who steals a few dollars a month from his company justifies the act by thinking himself ill-used by them. The man who cheats on his wife of many years justifies the act by convincing himself that she would do the same if she had the chance. The woman who cheats on her husband justifies the act by thinking that she has finally found true love with someone who understands her and treats her right. The terrorist who kills in the name of their Faith justifies the act by believing that God wants them to murder unbelievers instead of trying to convert them.

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Self deception is not a victimless crime. The cruel results of self-deception are spread throughout our society. Children are left confused and betrayed by parents who leave one another to find some new form of imagined happiness. A spouse is left broken-hearted by the departure of their mate while they seek greener pastures. A company is devastated, investors lose their savings and people loose their jobs when a greedy CEO fudges earnings reports to help themselves to a richer lifestyle.

The ultimate result of self-deception is personal disaster. Despite the fact that self-deception might appear to deliver a temporary sense of power and accomplishment, that will soon be wiped away by the consequences of the act. The person who dates someone who is married fools themselves into thinking that that person will be true to them, while cheating on their current mate. The man who steals a little money from his boss every month, loses their job and any community statue they may have had when the act is found out. The terrorist who kills the innocent in the name of god ends up merely another criminal among other murderers in some dank jail cell and brings shame to the very Faith they were trying to serve.

There are ways to avoid self-deception and the devastating personal results it can render. If you’re involved in some form of self-deception, put an immediate end to it. Self-deception loves company! If someone is egging you on to do things you know are wrong, separate yourself from them. Personal deception means personal consequences. Will they serve your jail time if you’re involved in some crime or feed your children after your new girlfriend spends money meant for your ex-family?

Personal honesty can protect your from personal dishonesty. Stop lying to yourself! YOU are your own best protection from self-deception. Decide in advance how you will respond to most common situations. This will protect you from making impulsive decisions that may have devastating consequences. If your boss makes a mistake and over-pays you, let them know and make it right. If you’re married and an attractive person flirts with you, let them know that you are already involved in a relationship. If someone emails you the answers to an important exam, report the matter and let those in charge know that you want nothing to do with that kind of behavior. No matter what happened yesterday, decide that today is a new day and that you are going to live it in the most honest way possible.

Like all behavior, personal deception is a choice. Sometimes it’s tough to be honest with ourselves and others. No one likes to admit they’ve failed at something, but when it happens pick yourself up. Don’t make excuses or blame others. For every one failure in your life, there are two chances to succeed. It’s just a matter of effort. It’s takes more effort for us to feel sorry for ourselves then it does to move on and find the next opportunity.

Honesty is always the best policy, especially when it comes to yourself.

A native New Yorker now living in Arizona, Bill Knell is a forty-something guy with a wealth of knowledge and experience. He's written hundreds of articles on a wide variety of subjects. A popular Speaker, Bill Knell presents seminars on a number of topics that entertain, train and teach. A popular radio and television show Guest, you've heard Bill on thousands of top-rated shows in all formats and seen him on local, national and international television programs.
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The overall orientation of Sandra Maitri group will be the shifting over time of one's identity and sense of self from the personality or ego to our deeper and ultimate nature — Being; and just as importantly, the integration of this experiential knowledge such that one's everyday life becomes a lived and fulfilling expression of that deeper nature. The confluence in recent decades of the streams of psychological and spiritual wisdom afford a wide range of unprecedented avenues of access to spiritual development. This confluence will be an important part of the orientation of this group.

Did you know?

The Power of Nine is your Key to Happiness and Joy.

There are nine Temperaments. Fifty percent (50%) of your happiness is determined by your Temperament.

Understanding your Temperament Type allows you to work with it and increase your own happiness. The ways individual people inherently view the world/themselves and process information are not the same but do tend to group in different clumps.

Pick the person about that you admire, like and think you are like and click on that number below and listen to the Video.

One way to view this distribution is as nine basic Temperaments Types. They all need different experiences to be really happy.

What do they really want?

Temperament One examples are: Hillary Clinton, Tom Brokaw, Martha Stewart, Al Gore, and Tony Randall. These people want to be good. They have high ideals and value and are attracted to situations where those ideals are met. They want to realize all their potential and help others actualize theirs. They envision making the world a better place to live.

Temperament Two examples are: Bill Cosby, Alan Alda, Nancy Reagan, Dolly Parton, and Pat Boone. These people want to know they are loving. They want to nurture others and foster relationships. They value and are attracted to love. They envision making the world a more loving place to live.

Temperament Three examples are: Oprah Winfrey, Tom Cruise, Tiger Woods, Lance Armstrong, and Bill Clinton. These people are attracted to and value productivity, industry, and competence. They envision making the world more productive, organized, efficient, and smooth running. They see the universe as chaos and want to really make it a cosmos, a harmonious and orderly system.

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Temperament Four examples are: Michael Jackson, Johnny Depp, Nicolas Cage, Neil Diamond, and Angelina Jolie. These people want to be unique individuals with lots of originality. They enjoy putting their personal touch on everything in which they are involved. They also value beauty and want to make the world a more beautiful place to live.

Temperament Five examples are: Bill Gates, Albert Einstein, Howard Hughes, George Lucas, and Karl Marx. These people long for wisdom, understanding, knowledge, truth. They want to make the world a more enlightened place by discovering what is real and true and making it more intelligible to others.

Temperament Six examples are: Helen Palmer, Michael Moore, Tom Hanks, Rush Limbaugh, Richard Nixon, and Mel Gibson. These people want to make the world a safer, more secure, more reliable, more trustworthy place to live and they will question anyone’s authority in their effort to do so. They value loyalty in themselves and others and stand by their commitments.

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Temperament Seven examples are: Robin Williams, Steve Jobs, Tom Hanks, Anthony Quinn, Richard Branson and Terry Bradshaw. These people want to enjoy life and experience all its possibilities. They value joy and variety. They envision making the world a more delightful place to live.

Temperament Eight examples are: Martin Luther King, Jr., FDR, Sean Connery, Donald Trump, and John Wayne. These people want to live life fully and freely. They are attracted to, appreciate, and effectively use power. They envision using their strength to influence others and bring about a more just world where power and resources are equitably distributed.

Temperament Nine examples are: Barack Obama, Ronald Reagan, Abraham Lincoln, Jimmy Stewart, Carl Jung, and Dwight Eisenhower. These people want to feel at one with others and at home in the universe. They value peace, harmony, and unity. They envision making the world a more harmonious, ecumenical, and comfortable place to live for everyone.

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Why do we use numbers?

Names such as: Twos, Giver, Caretaker, Helper, Nurturer, or Advisor, are commonly used to decribed the Temperaments Types. We use numbers instead of any names.

We use numbers to designate each of the Temperament Types because numbers are value neutral. They imply the whole range of attitudes and behaviors of each Temperament without specifying anything either positive or negative.

The numerical ranking of the Types is not significant. A larger number is no better than a smaller number.

No Temperament Type is inherently better or worse than any other. While all the Temperament Types have unique assets and liabilities, some Types are often more desirable than others in our society. You may not be happy with your particular Type. You may feel that your Type is “limited" in some way. As you learn more about all the Types, you will see that just as each has unique capacities, each has different “limits.”

People do not change from one basic Temperament Type to another. Some Types are more valued in our society than others; it is because of the qualities that society rewards, not because of any superior value of those Types.

The descriptions of the Temperament Types apply equally to males and females, since no Type is inherently masculine or feminine. Not everything in the description of your basic Type will apply to you all the time because you fluctuate constantly.

Why aren’t all people with a given Temperament Type successful?

You probably know a bunch of people with the same Temperament Type. Why are some successful and others are not. Why the difference? The difference is Emotional Intelligence. We use Emotional Quotient. (EQ) as a shorthand to describe Emotional Intelligence.

A person may have a high IQ. They did well in school, maybe have a college diploma or even an advanced degree. They may even be in MENSA, the select high-IQ club and still fail in business and relationships. Why are they not successful?

The answer:

Your IQ determines 20 % of your success, which leaves 80% to other forces. This is stated by Daniel Goleman the Author of “Emotional Intelligence.”

A person with a high IQ does not mean they know how to manage their thoughts and feelings any more successfully than a person with a low IQ. Success requires taking the emotional data, making sense of that data, and integrating it into your decision-making. People with higher EQ does this better.

By increasing your EQ you can use your thoughts and emotions of your Temperament Type to make the best possible decisions. Increased EQ help you get optimal results from your relationships with yourself and others.

EQ challenges the conventional belief that emotions are in the way of good decisions. By increasing your EQ it is possible to learn how to use your emotions to make better decisions. By increasing your EQ, it is possible to increase your wisdom and energy required for high performance. The Increasing your EQ is a teachable life skill. If people get better at these life skills, everyone benefits: The brain doesn't distinguish between being a more empathetic manager and a more empathetic father

The Just Wait Teen Program

The teenagers of the Just Wait Teen™ program  are exposed to the information and research concerning their Happiness, their Temperaments, their Talents, their Attributes, their Gifts and how to maintain long term relationships. The Just Wait Teen™ program  is life enhancing program, not a substance rehabilitation program. Although its' objective is to give the teens tools and understandings to reach 21 years - substance free.

This Program was developed by the Just Wait Foundation a 501 (c)(3) nonprofit corporation to prevent drug, alcohol, and tobacco problems among teenagers. The Foundation provides one-year scholarships (two semesters) at a Community College or $1000 award to teens that completes the 4 year Just Wait Teen™ Positive Youth Development Program, obtains a GED, or graduates from high school - alcohol, tobacco, and drug free. The Just Wait Foundation has arranged to use of 80 acres to raise fruit and vegetables to finance the scholarships

We offer free training for any person or group that wants to start this program in their community.

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