*Admit that what they did was wrong. If they minimize what they did (I only called you a few names. Didn't your mother tell you, "Sticks and stones will break your bones but names will never hurt you?") they will go back to this horrendous behavior when they see the time to be right. This can be a learned behavior they adapted when they were growing up. They may know that it is wrong but do not know how to change things. When they find themselves mad or upset, they automatically revert to this behavior as an outburst, not thinking about the effect it has on anyone else.

*. He/she (unfortunately both sexes can be abusers) must admit that they are abusive and that it is in their control to change themselves. If they blame YOUR weak constitution or their bad upbringing for their behavior no matter how many times that they apologize it won't last too long because in their mind they are not responsible for what happened. It is common for these types of people to blame others and not face their part in any situation. They do not see how damaging their actions are. They are not willing to face the truth of the matter, and thus not ready to ever change or get help for their behavior.

*. Be willing to rectify what he/ she did and be extra nice. Until he/ she begins to be more respectful of your needs and tries to fix your name to the people in front of whom they insulted you, they are still apt to fall back into their evil pattern. Also even little derogatory jokes which in a normal relationship isn't so bad, they have to stop them.

*. Strive for perfection. Don't fall for the "I'll try for the next few months" line. They have to be willing to put in the effort and sweat to stop the verbal abuse ALL THE TIME and FOREVER.

People who verbally abuse their spouses apologize for their disgusting behavior almost as much as they are verbally abusive. Don't fall for their apologizes unless you sense that they really do realize the damage that they caused you, they take FULL responsibility for what they did, are willing to be extra nice, and are willing to be good FOREVER. Unless they fulfill these conditions either leave them or be prepared for more outbursts regardless of how much the apologize.

In most cases, therapy or group sessions will help these verbal abusive spouses learn how to better cope in situations where they find themselves losing control and lashing out verbally. If they are truly ready to change, they should be open to going to some sessions to see how it can help. You do not have to put up with a verbally abusive spouse. There is help out there for both you and your spouse if you just ask for it.

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Names such as: Sixes are the: Loyal Person, Devil's Advocate, Faithful Skeptic, Guardian, or True Believer are commonly used to decribed the Temperaments Types. We use numbers instead of any names.

We use numbers to designate each of the Temperament Types because numbers are value neutral. They imply the whole range of attitudes and behaviors of each Temperament without specifying anything either positive or negative.

The numerical ranking of the Types is not significant. A larger number is no better than a smaller number.

No Temperament Type is inherently better or worse than any other. While all the Temperament Types have unique assets and liabilities, some Types are often more desirable than others in our society. You may not be happy with your particular Type. You may feel that your Type is “limited" in some way. As you learn more about all the Types, you will see that just as each has unique capacities, each has different “limits.”

People do not change from one basic Temperament Type to another. Some Types are more valued in our society than others; it is because of the qualities that society rewards, not because of any superior value of those Types.

The descriptions of the Temperament Types apply equally to males and females, since no Type is inherently masculine or feminine. Not everything in the description of your basic Type will apply to you all the time because you fluctuate constantly.

Why aren’t all people with a given Temperament Type successful?

You probably know a bunch of people with the same Temperament Type. Why are some successful and others are not. Why the difference? The difference is Emotional Intelligence. We use Emotional Quotient. (EQ) as a shorthand to describe Emotional Intelligence.

A person may have a high IQ. They did well in school, maybe have a college diploma or even an advanced degree. They may even be in MENSA, the select high-IQ club and still fail in business and relationships. Why are they not successful?

The answer:

Your IQ determines 20 % of your success, which leaves 80% to other forces. This is stated by Daniel Goleman the Author of “Emotional Intelligence.”

A person with a high IQ does not mean they know how to manage their thoughts and feelings any more successfully than a person with a low IQ. Success requires taking the emotional data, making sense of that data, and integrating it into your decision-making. People with higher EQ does this better.

By increasing your EQ you can use your thoughts and emotions of your Temperament Type to make the best possible decisions. Increased EQ help you get optimal results from your relationships with yourself and others.

EQ challenges the conventional belief that emotions are in the way of good decisions. By increasing your EQ it is possible to learn how to use your emotions to make better decisions. By increasing your EQ, it is possible to increase your wisdom and energy required for high performance. The Increasing your EQ is a teachable life skill. If people get better at these life skills, everyone benefits: The brain doesn't distinguish between being a more empathetic manager and a more empathetic father

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