"Dissociation After A Trauma , Nine's believe, I go with the flow"

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Dissociation After A Trauma , Nine's believe, I go with the flow

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Has Dissociation After a Trauma Left You Feeling Spacey?    Margaret (Maggie) Kerrigan, MA LPC In the next scene, she watched herself force open the door and look around. Her attention was drawn to the intricate spider web design of the broken windshield. Everything else she looked at seemed strange in an odd way. Later, the therapist explained that she had dissociated. A Common Response to Serious Threat When we are faced with life threatening situations, a common trauma response is for us to dissociate. We get spacey. When we are overwhelmed with a sense of danger and we don't have a way to protect ourselves, our nervous systems will automatically go into dissociative mode. As a result, we lose our ability to accurately perceive what is happening in our environment. Just like the woman in the car, we some place else. Article to continue below---------------------------------------------- Jimmy Carter: Can Obama Trust Him In North Korea Talks? Jimmy Carter gained a reputation as an independent actor when President Clinton sent him to North Korea in 1994. President Obama will hope Carter on a mission to bring back a jailed American does not stray... ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- When Does Dissociation Happen? Nearly all of us have known what I call the garden variety of dissociation. We drive home from work listening to the radio and once we get home, we cannot say much about what we saw or that we heard the geese honking above us. There was no threat, but we dissociated anyway. Article to continue below---------------------------------------------- --------------------------------------------------------------------------- As the story above illustrates, dissociation also can happen in response to something, which threatens our survival. Animals in the wild often do it. Before the lion’s jaws even touches the lamb, which has no chance of out running the lion, the weaker animal will go limp and dissociate so it does not feel the tearing of its skin. What Are the Benefits of Dissociation? In the face of serious harm, our bodies will take care of us by causing us to dissociate. 1. The memory of an event and the feelings become disconnected. While dissociated, the woman did not have to feel the terror of falling. 2. We feel as though we have become detached from our body. As the car felt off the cliff, the woman's body “remained behind and she didn't have to feel herself being jerked and bruised under the seat belt. 3. Emotions become numbed. When she told the story of the accident to the police, she appeared calm. This helped her to keep the panic at bay. 4. Things can appear unreal. By seeing the car and location as unfamiliar, the woman's nervous system kept things manageable for the time being. 5. Time can move s-l-o-w-l-y. Again, this distortion in perception helped the woman cope when the accident happened too fast for it all to register. 6. Our senses such as sight and hearing can sharpen. After the fall, the woman's attention fixed on the pattern of the broken glass. When Does Dissociation Become a Problem? Dissociation becomes a problem when we are dissociating after the threat has passed, and we move through our daily routines in a dissociated state. We feel numb emotionally and physically and miss out on experiencing the good things in life. Our sense of aliveness and connection to others and our environment diminishes. Our ability to feel a wide range of emotions including joy, love and passion becomes limited. When we are not able to give our attention to what is happening right now, intimacy dies. In addition, we also miss the signals from our bodies that tell us we are ill or not safe. Consequently, we make decisions that may put us in harms way or that we later regret. Others struggle to connect to us and may even turn away from our company because we always seem to be somewhere else or too spacey. What Works? When the woman, whom I described above, came to therapy, she was very anxious and able to recall only snippets of the accident. She felt as though she had lost several days of her life following the accident. Through a specific trauma therapy called, Somatic Experiencing, the woman was surprised when the therapist began the session by asking her to describe how she was rescued. In the past, she always told her story from beginning to end. This new way helped her to really get that she had survived and that help had come; her body relaxed all over. Until then a part of her was always dreading that death could come any moment. The actual telling of the accident was different for her as well. She told her story in very small chunks. This, she came to appreciate, helped each of the dissociated experience to become real to her. By working slowly, she was able to respond to the question, What do you notice now? by saying that she could feel the leather car seat under her legs as she sat inside the car at the bottom of the ravine. Continuing with answers to other questions such as Where do you feel that movement (of self protection) starting to happen in your body? and What else do you see or hear as you sit in the car helped the woman to fill in the missing blanks of what happened after the car went off the road. Toward the end of therapy, she was particularly grateful that when it came time to touch into the terror of all that happened, she could feel the terror without feeling overwhelmed. By paying particular attention to the woman's imagery, body sensations, impulses to move, and her emotions, the therapist was able to help the client re-experience the event in such a way that the client no longer needed to be dissociated and which did not retraumatize the client. By the end of several sessions, the woman felt together again. The days following the accident came alive for her and her anxiety level had significantly subsided. Do You Have Questions About Dissociation? I would feel embarrassed letting someone else know I had dissociated. I felt weird after the injury and thought I had gone crazy. It's not uncommon to feel like you have gone crazy. The sensations of seeing and hearing things as though you were not in your body can be very disorienting. The topic of dissociation is not something many of discuss over the dinner table. When we face a serious threat, however, it is VERY NORMAL and a very kind thing that our nervous system knows how to do. There usually is not anything we can do to stop it. Our nervous system does this to help us cope. It keeps us from freaking out, from feeling overwhelmed to the point of collapse, and it keeps us from feeling the terror and physical pain when we fear for our life. A therapist, who understands trauma, can help you see the benefits of short-term dissociation. Why would I want to stop dissociating? It helps me to escape when there is conflict happening with my spouse. Being able to dissociate can seem, for a while, like an effective coping mechanism. In addition to not feeling physical pain, it can also help us to avoid feeling emotional discomfort. However, if dissociation has become a way of life, when there is no serious threat actually happening, we can go around always feeling dead inside. Spouses may wonder if we are really there when they tell us something. Summary * Dissociation is a normal response to a serious threat. * You may feel separated from your body or emotions. * Sense of time becomes distorted or people and places seem unfamiliar. * Dissociation usually happens beyond your control and you do it to protect yourself from pain and extreme fear. * Staying dissociated after the threat is gone can cause problems in your ability to enjoy life and your surroundings. If you would like to learn more about the effects of trauma, subscribe to my free newsletter Healing After Trauma at www.healingaftertrauma.com Margaret (Maggie) Kerrigan, MA LPC has practiced in the field of trauma since 1990 initially as licensed massage therapist and later as a licensed professional counselor. Post graduate work has included study of Somatic Experiencing® (SE), a short-term naturalistic approach to the resolution and healing of trauma developed by Dr Peter Levine, and dissociative disorders through The International Society for the Study of Dissociation and Trauma. Did you know? The Power of Nine is your Key to Happiness and Joy. There are nine Temperaments. Fifty percent (50%) of your happiness is determined by your Temperament. Understanding your Temperament Type allows you to work with it and increase your own happiness. The ways individual people inherently view the world/themselves and process information are not the same but do tend to group in different clumps. Pick the person about that you admire, like and think you are like and click on that number below and listen to the Video. One way to view this distribution is as nine basic Temperaments Types. They all need different experiences to be really happy. What do they really want? Temperament One examples are: Hillary Clinton, Tom Brokaw, Martha Stewart, Al Gore, and Tony Randall. These people want to be good. They have high ideals and value and are attracted to situations where those ideals are met. They want to realize all their potential and help others actualize theirs. They envision making the world a better place to live. Temperament Two examples are: Bill Cosby, Alan Alda, Nancy Reagan, Dolly Parton, and Pat Boone. These people want to know they are loving. They want to nurture others and foster relationships. They value and are attracted to love. They envision making the world a more loving place to live. Temperament Three examples are: Oprah Winfrey, Tom Cruise, Tiger Woods, Lance Armstrong, and Bill Clinton. These people are attracted to and value productivity, industry, and competence. They envision making the world more productive, organized, efficient, and smooth running. They see the universe as chaos and want to really make it a cosmos, a harmonious and orderly system. Would You Like Help to Determine your Temperament? Temperament Four examples are: Michael Jackson, Johnny Depp, Nicolas Cage, Neil Diamond, and Angelina Jolie. These people want to be unique individuals with lots of originality. They enjoy putting their personal touch on everything in which they are involved. They also value beauty and want to make the world a more beautiful place to live. Temperament Five examples are: Bill Gates, Albert Einstein, Howard Hughes, George Lucas, and Karl Marx. These people long for wisdom, understanding, knowledge, truth. They want to make the world a more enlightened place by discovering what is real and true and making it more intelligible to others. Temperament Six examples are: Helen Palmer, Michael Moore, Tom Hanks, Rush Limbaugh, Richard Nixon, and Mel Gibson. These people want to make the world a safer, more secure, more reliable, more trustworthy place to live and they will question anyone’s authority in their effort to do so. They value loyalty in themselves and others and stand by their commitments. Would You Like Help to Determine your Temperament? Temperament Seven examples are: Robin Williams, Steve Jobs, Tom Hanks, Anthony Quinn, Richard Branson and Terry Bradshaw. These people want to enjoy life and experience all its possibilities. They value joy and variety. They envision making the world a more delightful place to live. Temperament Eight examples are: Martin Luther King, Jr., FDR, Sean Connery, Donald Trump, and John Wayne. These people want to live life fully and freely. They are attracted to, appreciate, and effectively use power. They envision using their strength to influence others and bring about a more just world where power and resources are equitably distributed. Temperament Nine examples are: Barack Obama, Ronald Reagan, Abraham Lincoln, Jimmy Stewart, Carl Jung, and Dwight Eisenhower. These people want to feel at one with others and at home in the universe. They value peace, harmony, and unity. They envision making the world a more harmonious, ecumenical, and comfortable place to live for everyone. Would You Like Help to Determine your Temperament? Why aren’t all people with a given Temperament Type successful? You probably know a bunch of people with the same Temperament Type. Why are some successful and others are not. Why the difference? The difference is Emotional Intelligence. We use Emotional Quotient. (EQ) as a shorthand to describe Emotional Intelligence. A person may have a high IQ. They did well in school, maybe have a college diploma or even an advanced degree. They may even be in MENSA, the select high-IQ club and still fail in business and relationships. Why are they not successful? The answer: Your IQ determines 20 % of your success, which leaves 80% to other forces. This is stated by Daniel Goleman the Author of “Emotional Intelligence.” A person with a high IQ does not mean they know how to manage their thoughts and feelings any more successfully than a person with a low IQ. Success requires taking the emotional data, making sense of that data, and integrating it into your decision-making. People with higher EQ does this better. By increasing your EQ you can use your thoughts and emotions of your Temperament Type to make the best possible decisions. Increased EQ help you get optimal results from your relationships with yourself and others. EQ challenges the conventional belief that emotions are in the way of good decisions. By increasing your EQ it is possible to learn how to use your emotions to make better decisions. By increasing your EQ, it is possible to increase your wisdom and energy required for high performance. The Increasing your EQ is a teachable life skill. If people get better at these life skills, everyone benefits: The brain doesn't distinguish between being a more empathetic manager and a more empathetic father Why do we use numbers? Names such as: Peacemaker, Mediator, Naturalist, Accommodator, Preservationist are commonly used to decribed the Temperaments Types. We use numbers instead of any names. We use numbers to designate each of the Temperament Types because numbers are value neutral. They imply the whole range of attitudes and behaviors of each Temperament without specifying anything either positive or negative. The numerical ranking of the Types is not significant. A larger number is no better than a smaller number. No Temperament Type is inherently better or worse than any other. While all the Temperament Types have unique assets and liabilities, some Types are often more desirable than others in our society. You may not be happy with your particular Type. You may feel that your Type is “limited" in some way. As you learn more about all the Types, you will see that just as each has unique capacities, each has different “limits.” People do not change from one basic Temperament Type to another. Some Types are more valued in our society than others; it is because of the qualities that society rewards, not because of any superior value of those Types. The descriptions of the Temperament Types apply equally to males and females, since no Type is inherently masculine or feminine. Not everything in the description of your basic Type will apply to you all the time because you fluctuate constantly. The Just Wait Teen Program The teenagers of the Just Wait Teen™ program  are exposed to the information and research concerning their Happiness, their Temperaments, their Talents, their Attributes, their Gifts and how to maintain long term relationships. The Just Wait Teen™ program  is life enhancing program, not a substance rehabilitation program. Although its' objective is to give the teens tools and understandings to reach 21 years - substance free. This Program was developed by the Just Wait Foundation a 501 (c)(3) nonprofit corporation to prevent drug, alcohol, and tobacco problems among teenagers. The Foundation provides one-year scholarships (two semesters) at a Community College or $1000 award to teens that completes the 4 year Just Wait Teen™ Positive Youth Development Program, obtains a GED, or graduates from high school - alcohol, tobacco, and drug free. The Just Wait Foundation has arranged to use of 80 acres to raise fruit and vegetables to finance the scholarships We offer free training for any person or group that wants to start this program in their community. Contact Us    Copyright 2009  - 2010 & Developed by  Just Wait Teens

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