"Dissociation Isn't A Life Skill , Nine's believe, I go with the flow"

The above video is a person with the nine (9) temperament explaining how she functions in life and how she see the world.

Dissociation Isn't A Life Skill , Nine's believe, I go with the flow

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Dissociation Isn't a Life Skill    Sandra L. Brown, M.A Dissociation is described as: 1. The splitting off of a group of mental processes from the main body of consciousness, as in amnesia. 2. The act of separating or state of being separated. 3. The separation into two or more fragments. Let's talk about Dissociation a minute...it's technically a defense mechanism--we separate out of our memory things that we don't want/can't deal with. In trauma (like abuse or rape), that's helpful at the time. If dissociation becomes your major defense mechanism, it can become a full blown dissociative disorder which are very intense types of disorders. But outside of full blown dissociative disorders, there is still the ability to heavily rely on dissociation even if you don't have the disorder. 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Dissociation can become a primary defense mechanism if you grew up in a dysfunctional, abusive, addictive, or violent home. That's because children can easily go on 'over whelm' and check out--or dissociate because they can't handle whats going on. If you never learned adult coping skills then it's likely you use the ones you do know: which are from childhood. And if your primary ones were dissociation, then you're probably using that now, and it probably has gotten you into alot of trouble in your patterns of relationship selection. Article to continue below---------------------------------------------- --------------------------------------------------------------------------- After a while, you don't even know you're dissociating. It's just automatic. So you can dissociate away alot of IMPORTANT stuff early on: like discrepancies in his stories, his not-so-nice words he says to you, his tonality in his voice, or other behaviors that SHOULD cause you concern, but don't. Any time we separate a memory from all it's components, you are dissociating from the complete or whole memory which is why remembering ALL the relationship issues are important--not just the good times. The bad times are a part of the memory or the memory is merely a fragment of what REALLY was going on. You can also seperate out other parts of the memory like: sensations, words or phrases, physical or sexual pain inherent in the memory, things you tasted/smelled/saw, and various emotions that were prevalent in the relationship. That's why women get these very skewed 'snap shots' of just the good times and long after those times. The whole snap shot would look very different indeed if she incorporated all the senses in the memory. Sometimes women can dissociate or fragment off the 'meaning,' 'motive,' or 'intent' as well. So he uses all your money and your response is "He meant well, he just doesn't know how to handle money." That's not likely the situation so the motive or meaning of what he was REALLY doing is fragmented away from you so you don't have to take action. Dissociation can become an unconscious reason to stay "I didn't notice...." because underneath dissociation was naturally at work and it also 'worked' for the ability to stay in the relationship and 'not notice.' How long can you live on the reasoning behind dissociation which is "I didn't know, I didn't notice...." which is why I say that dissociation is not a life skill. It doesn't help you move forward, it keeps you frozen in time. Women describe dissociation as a numbing or a spacy feeling. They either don't feel something OR they are too spaced out to do much about it. In the middle of a traumatic event, spacing out and numbing is a good thing. Even as adults, I still advocate that there are times for 'therapeutic dissociation.' Like in a root canal--who wants to be 'present' and 'aware' for that? But the problem is that dissociation becomes largely un-managed. Then it becomes downright dangerous to us--robbing us of our ability to be aware, intune, and vigilant. Look back over your childhood for patterns of dissociation. Look back over your adult relationships and see how influenced your choices were by dissociation. Look at your TODAY LIFE for signs of when you check out, become aware, drift off, or stuff feelings at the speed of light so you don't have to make a decision about something. These are all aspects of dissociation. While it might have helped you in a time of trauma, as an adult your recovery is about growing into healthier and stronger coping skills than mere dissociation. All of real life is happening now---are you missing it? Pick up your complimentary article 'Five Ways to Find Safe Love' and sign up for our fact-packed newsletter at www.HowToSpotaDangerousMan.com. (There is more information about Dissociation in my book 'Counseling Victims of Violence.') ** This article is free for use or reprint as long as the following information is included with the article and the article is quoted as is: Article written by Sandra L. Brown, M.A., Director of The Dangerous Relationship Institute and author 'How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved' and 'Counseling Victims of Violence.' The Institute is involved in helping women achieve relational harm reduction. Visit our site at www.How Did you know? The Power of Nine is your Key to Happiness and Joy. There are nine Temperaments. Fifty percent (50%) of your happiness is determined by your Temperament. Understanding your Temperament Type allows you to work with it and increase your own happiness. The ways individual people inherently view the world/themselves and process information are not the same but do tend to group in different clumps. Pick the person about that you admire, like and think you are like and click on that number below and listen to the Video. One way to view this distribution is as nine basic Temperaments Types. They all need different experiences to be really happy. What do they really want? Temperament One examples are: Hillary Clinton, Tom Brokaw, Martha Stewart, Al Gore, and Tony Randall. These people want to be good. They have high ideals and value and are attracted to situations where those ideals are met. They want to realize all their potential and help others actualize theirs. They envision making the world a better place to live. Temperament Two examples are: Bill Cosby, Alan Alda, Nancy Reagan, Dolly Parton, and Pat Boone. These people want to know they are loving. They want to nurture others and foster relationships. They value and are attracted to love. They envision making the world a more loving place to live. Temperament Three examples are: Oprah Winfrey, Tom Cruise, Tiger Woods, Lance Armstrong, and Bill Clinton. These people are attracted to and value productivity, industry, and competence. They envision making the world more productive, organized, efficient, and smooth running. They see the universe as chaos and want to really make it a cosmos, a harmonious and orderly system. Would You Like Help to Determine your Temperament? Temperament Four examples are: Michael Jackson, Johnny Depp, Nicolas Cage, Neil Diamond, and Angelina Jolie. These people want to be unique individuals with lots of originality. They enjoy putting their personal touch on everything in which they are involved. They also value beauty and want to make the world a more beautiful place to live. Temperament Five examples are: Bill Gates, Albert Einstein, Howard Hughes, George Lucas, and Karl Marx. These people long for wisdom, understanding, knowledge, truth. They want to make the world a more enlightened place by discovering what is real and true and making it more intelligible to others. Temperament Six examples are: Helen Palmer, Michael Moore, Tom Hanks, Rush Limbaugh, Richard Nixon, and Mel Gibson. These people want to make the world a safer, more secure, more reliable, more trustworthy place to live and they will question anyone’s authority in their effort to do so. They value loyalty in themselves and others and stand by their commitments. Would You Like Help to Determine your Temperament? Temperament Seven examples are: Robin Williams, Steve Jobs, Tom Hanks, Anthony Quinn, Richard Branson and Terry Bradshaw. These people want to enjoy life and experience all its possibilities. They value joy and variety. They envision making the world a more delightful place to live. Temperament Eight examples are: Martin Luther King, Jr., FDR, Sean Connery, Donald Trump, and John Wayne. These people want to live life fully and freely. They are attracted to, appreciate, and effectively use power. They envision using their strength to influence others and bring about a more just world where power and resources are equitably distributed. Temperament Nine examples are: Barack Obama, Ronald Reagan, Abraham Lincoln, Jimmy Stewart, Carl Jung, and Dwight Eisenhower. These people want to feel at one with others and at home in the universe. They value peace, harmony, and unity. They envision making the world a more harmonious, ecumenical, and comfortable place to live for everyone. Would You Like Help to Determine your Temperament? Why aren’t all people with a given Temperament Type successful? You probably know a bunch of people with the same Temperament Type. Why are some successful and others are not. Why the difference? The difference is Emotional Intelligence. We use Emotional Quotient. (EQ) as a shorthand to describe Emotional Intelligence. A person may have a high IQ. They did well in school, maybe have a college diploma or even an advanced degree. They may even be in MENSA, the select high-IQ club and still fail in business and relationships. Why are they not successful? The answer: Your IQ determines 20 % of your success, which leaves 80% to other forces. This is stated by Daniel Goleman the Author of “Emotional Intelligence.” A person with a high IQ does not mean they know how to manage their thoughts and feelings any more successfully than a person with a low IQ. Success requires taking the emotional data, making sense of that data, and integrating it into your decision-making. People with higher EQ does this better. By increasing your EQ you can use your thoughts and emotions of your Temperament Type to make the best possible decisions. Increased EQ help you get optimal results from your relationships with yourself and others. EQ challenges the conventional belief that emotions are in the way of good decisions. By increasing your EQ it is possible to learn how to use your emotions to make better decisions. By increasing your EQ, it is possible to increase your wisdom and energy required for high performance. The Increasing your EQ is a teachable life skill. If people get better at these life skills, everyone benefits: The brain doesn't distinguish between being a more empathetic manager and a more empathetic father Why do we use numbers? Names such as: Peacemaker, Mediator, Naturalist, Accommodator, Preservationist are commonly used to decribed the Temperaments Types. We use numbers instead of any names. We use numbers to designate each of the Temperament Types because numbers are value neutral. They imply the whole range of attitudes and behaviors of each Temperament without specifying anything either positive or negative. The numerical ranking of the Types is not significant. A larger number is no better than a smaller number. No Temperament Type is inherently better or worse than any other. While all the Temperament Types have unique assets and liabilities, some Types are often more desirable than others in our society. You may not be happy with your particular Type. You may feel that your Type is “limited" in some way. As you learn more about all the Types, you will see that just as each has unique capacities, each has different “limits.” People do not change from one basic Temperament Type to another. Some Types are more valued in our society than others; it is because of the qualities that society rewards, not because of any superior value of those Types. The descriptions of the Temperament Types apply equally to males and females, since no Type is inherently masculine or feminine. Not everything in the description of your basic Type will apply to you all the time because you fluctuate constantly. The Just Wait Teen Program The teenagers of the Just Wait Teen™ program  are exposed to the information and research concerning their Happiness, their Temperaments, their Talents, their Attributes, their Gifts and how to maintain long term relationships. The Just Wait Teen™ program  is life enhancing program, not a substance rehabilitation program. Although its' objective is to give the teens tools and understandings to reach 21 years - substance free. This Program was developed by the Just Wait Foundation a 501 (c)(3) nonprofit corporation to prevent drug, alcohol, and tobacco problems among teenagers. The Foundation provides one-year scholarships (two semesters) at a Community College or $1000 award to teens that completes the 4 year Just Wait Teen™ Positive Youth Development Program, obtains a GED, or graduates from high school - alcohol, tobacco, and drug free. The Just Wait Foundation has arranged to use of 80 acres to raise fruit and vegetables to finance the scholarships We offer free training for any person or group that wants to start this program in their community. Contact Us    Copyright 2009  - 2010 & Developed by  Just Wait Teens

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