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by Daniel Goleman
Dr. Goleman did an excellent job with his second book on Emotional Intelligence because he gives more detail on how to correct the lack of Emotional Intelligence in the business and professional world.
On page 26 he tells us how to do a check up on our missing competences for emotional intelligence( both personal and social competencies) and he also mentions that there must be a continious follow up on this program to achieve a lasting effect over the change of our un-wanted bad habits and he alos mentions the guidelines for emotional competence TRAINING which is very helpful in the seminars to train management executives.
Dr. Goleman explains also that it takes months to be able to modify our personality, so that some people will not dispair because they can not get an overnight change, it takes time, perseverance and practice to become a proficient and capable executive with good emotional intelligence. Dr. Goleman also explains the effect that stress has on CONTROL and how it affects mistakes, memory and health and overall management.
In other words Dr. Goleman is helping everybody to modify their personalities to be able to produce more with less stress and wear (or exhaustion).
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The Stanford Marshmallow Experiment
In above video you will see kids participating in the Stanford Marshmallow Experiment. The Stanford Marshmallow Experiment must be the most astounding psychological study ever performed, or at any rate ranking right up there with some of the experiments done by Stanley Milgram. Who would ever guess that a brief observation of a four-year old alone with a marshmallow would be an excellent predictor of college entrance exam scores — twice as good a predictor as IQ test scores? In one of the most amazing developmental studies ever conducted, Walter Michel of Stanford created a simple test of the ability of four year old children to control impulses and delay gratification. Children were taken one at a time into a room with a one-way mirror. They were shown a marshmallow. The experimenter told them he had to leave and that they could have the marshmallow right then, but if they waited for the experimenter to return from an errand, they could have two marshmallows. One marshmallow was left on a table in front of them. Some children grabbed the available marshmallow within seconds of the experimenter leaving. Others waited up to twenty minutes for the experimenter to return. In a follow-up study (Shoda, Mischel, & Peake, 1990), children were tested at 18 years of age and comparisons were made between the third of the children who grabbed the marshmallow (the "impulsive") and the third who delayed gratification in order to receive the enhanced reward ("impulse controlled"). The third of the children who were most impulsive at four years of age scored an average of 524 verbal and 528 math. The impulse controlled students who scored 610 verbal and 652 math! This astounding 210 point total score difference on the SAT was predicted on the basis of a single observation at four years of age! The 210 point difference is as large as the average differences between that of economically advantaged versus disadvantaged children and is larger than the difference between children from families with graduate degrees versus children whose parents did not finish high school! At four years of age gobbling a marshmallow now v. waiting for two later is twice as good a predictor of later SAT scores than is IQ. Poor impulse control is also a better predictor of later delinquency than is IQ. Obviously there's a strong correlation between IQ and impulse control. People who do well in life have lots of both, and vice versa for those who don't do well. Sociologists have regaled us for years with their theories as to the causes of poverty: lack of education, structural causes, racism. But it seems that, at least where opportunity exists, the reason for differences in income and wealth is that the poor have high impulsivity.
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Life is about more than just having fun and doing whatever you want to do, whenever you want to do it. Life is about values and morals. Each person has their own personal values and beliefs and morals. In order to know where you are going in life and who you really are, it is important to go through your own personal values development. You may not have grown up in church or know much about family values, but that is okay. There are many ways you can go through your own personal values development. Where Do I Start? Article to continue below-------------------------------------
To find out what your personal values and beliefs are, think about what you want to accomplish. Are you family oriented? Do you value the love of family or do you value friendship more? Does someone have to be related to you by blood in order for you to feel a sense of connection? Family and friends are something that most people value, but some people value one group over the other. Next, think about what is most important to you. Is your family life the most important to you, or is church high on your list? Do you put your career ahead of anything else in life, or do you put God first? All of these questions are important in your personal values development. If you do not know who you are or what is important to you, then you will not be able to determine what you value in life. Morals And Beliefs Article to continue below------------------------------------
Religion can play a huge role in personal values development. If you do not have any religious beliefs, you may want to visit several different churches. If you grew up Catholic but feel not connection to the Catholic faith, try visiting a protestant church. If you grew up in one of the many protestant denominations and do not feel that you have a connection to any church, try a different denomination. Having faith based roots can be very important in personal values development. While you can most certainly have values without religion, many people find that they like the guidelines that religions set and allow them to know exactly what they should do in life in order to keep their values in check. Finally, try to see how other people view you. What do they think you put first in life? What do your family and friends think you value most? If you do not like what they have to say, then actively work on your personal values development until you feel like you truly are showing your values to everyone you meet.
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