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by Daniel Goleman
Dr. Goleman did an excellent job with his second book on Emotional Intelligence because he gives more detail on how to correct the lack of Emotional Intelligence in the business and professional world.
On page 26 he tells us how to do a check up on our missing competences for emotional intelligence( both personal and social competencies) and he also mentions that there must be a continious follow up on this program to achieve a lasting effect over the change of our un-wanted bad habits and he alos mentions the guidelines for emotional competence TRAINING which is very helpful in the seminars to train management executives.
Dr. Goleman explains also that it takes months to be able to modify our personality, so that some people will not dispair because they can not get an overnight change, it takes time, perseverance and practice to become a proficient and capable executive with good emotional intelligence. Dr. Goleman also explains the effect that stress has on CONTROL and how it affects mistakes, memory and health and overall management.
In other words Dr. Goleman is helping everybody to modify their personalities to be able to produce more with less stress and wear (or exhaustion).
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The Stanford Marshmallow Experiment
In above video you will see kids participating in the Stanford Marshmallow Experiment. The Stanford Marshmallow Experiment must be the most astounding psychological study ever performed, or at any rate ranking right up there with some of the experiments done by Stanley Milgram. Who would ever guess that a brief observation of a four-year old alone with a marshmallow would be an excellent predictor of college entrance exam scores — twice as good a predictor as IQ test scores? In one of the most amazing developmental studies ever conducted, Walter Michel of Stanford created a simple test of the ability of four year old children to control impulses and delay gratification. Children were taken one at a time into a room with a one-way mirror. They were shown a marshmallow. The experimenter told them he had to leave and that they could have the marshmallow right then, but if they waited for the experimenter to return from an errand, they could have two marshmallows. One marshmallow was left on a table in front of them. Some children grabbed the available marshmallow within seconds of the experimenter leaving. Others waited up to twenty minutes for the experimenter to return. In a follow-up study (Shoda, Mischel, & Peake, 1990), children were tested at 18 years of age and comparisons were made between the third of the children who grabbed the marshmallow (the "impulsive") and the third who delayed gratification in order to receive the enhanced reward ("impulse controlled"). The third of the children who were most impulsive at four years of age scored an average of 524 verbal and 528 math. The impulse controlled students who scored 610 verbal and 652 math! This astounding 210 point total score difference on the SAT was predicted on the basis of a single observation at four years of age! The 210 point difference is as large as the average differences between that of economically advantaged versus disadvantaged children and is larger than the difference between children from families with graduate degrees versus children whose parents did not finish high school! At four years of age gobbling a marshmallow now v. waiting for two later is twice as good a predictor of later SAT scores than is IQ. Poor impulse control is also a better predictor of later delinquency than is IQ. Obviously there's a strong correlation between IQ and impulse control. People who do well in life have lots of both, and vice versa for those who don't do well. Sociologists have regaled us for years with their theories as to the causes of poverty: lack of education, structural causes, racism. But it seems that, at least where opportunity exists, the reason for differences in income and wealth is that the poor have high impulsivity.
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Find the Perfect Job
I'm using "Now, Discover Your Strengths" by Buckingham and Clifton, for career coaching for clients with marvelous results.
It was published this year and based on a survey done by The Gallup Organization of over 2,000,000 people who were excellent at what they do.
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The usual premises in business and elsewhere are:
1. Each person can learn to be competent in almost anything.
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2. Each person's greatest room for growth is in his or her area of greatest weakness.
Buckingham and Clifton agree that a good person can learn almost anything, but their premises are:
1. Each person's talents are enduring, unique and innate. 2. Each person's greatest room for growth is in the area of his or her greatest strengths. A strength is defined as "consistent, near perfect performance in an activity." When we're working in our strength area we will be energized, not drained, and will feel a sort of deep pleasure that makes it almost effortless and very soul-satisfying. These talents show up early -- ask yourself (or your parents) what you "always liked to do" when you were young, and what you dreamed of doing. Ask yourself what you could envision doing for 12-14 hours in a row. What puts you in the zone? Also pay close attention if you're asked to do something new and you 'take to it like a duck to water.' This is a signal that it's tapped an innate talent. You can also buy the book and take the excellent StrengthsFinder (tm) Profile (online) to find out your 5 signature themes. The authors came up with 34 names for strengths and filled a real gap in our collective vocabulary. These are not terms like "trustworthy" or "dependable," but rather: Activator, WOO (Winning Others Over), Relator, Empathy, Strategic, Deliberativeness and Harmony. We can become very good at something that isn't a strength, but can never reach excellence at it, and it will never give us the perfect life we want and deserve. It will also be far more stressful.
Susan Dunn is a personal and professional development coach, spexializing in emotional intelligence, strengths, and life balance. visit her on the web at http://www.susandunn.cc.
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