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by Daniel Goleman
Dr. Goleman did an excellent job with his second book on Emotional Intelligence because he gives more detail on how to correct the lack of Emotional Intelligence in the business and professional world.
On page 26 he tells us how to do a check up on our missing competences for emotional intelligence( both personal and social competencies) and he also mentions that there must be a continious follow up on this program to achieve a lasting effect over the change of our un-wanted bad habits and he alos mentions the guidelines for emotional competence TRAINING which is very helpful in the seminars to train management executives.
Dr. Goleman explains also that it takes months to be able to modify our personality, so that some people will not dispair because they can not get an overnight change, it takes time, perseverance and practice to become a proficient and capable executive with good emotional intelligence. Dr. Goleman also explains the effect that stress has on CONTROL and how it affects mistakes, memory and health and overall management.
In other words Dr. Goleman is helping everybody to modify their personalities to be able to produce more with less stress and wear (or exhaustion).
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Index of More Articles about Leadership
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The Stanford Marshmallow Experiment
In above video you will see kids participating in the Stanford Marshmallow Experiment. The Stanford Marshmallow Experiment must be the most astounding psychological study ever performed, or at any rate ranking right up there with some of the experiments done by Stanley Milgram. Who would ever guess that a brief observation of a four-year old alone with a marshmallow would be an excellent predictor of college entrance exam scores — twice as good a predictor as IQ test scores? In one of the most amazing developmental studies ever conducted, Walter Michel of Stanford created a simple test of the ability of four year old children to control impulses and delay gratification. Children were taken one at a time into a room with a one-way mirror. They were shown a marshmallow. The experimenter told them he had to leave and that they could have the marshmallow right then, but if they waited for the experimenter to return from an errand, they could have two marshmallows. One marshmallow was left on a table in front of them. Some children grabbed the available marshmallow within seconds of the experimenter leaving. Others waited up to twenty minutes for the experimenter to return. In a follow-up study (Shoda, Mischel, & Peake, 1990), children were tested at 18 years of age and comparisons were made between the third of the children who grabbed the marshmallow (the "impulsive") and the third who delayed gratification in order to receive the enhanced reward ("impulse controlled"). The third of the children who were most impulsive at four years of age scored an average of 524 verbal and 528 math. The impulse controlled students who scored 610 verbal and 652 math! This astounding 210 point total score difference on the SAT was predicted on the basis of a single observation at four years of age! The 210 point difference is as large as the average differences between that of economically advantaged versus disadvantaged children and is larger than the difference between children from families with graduate degrees versus children whose parents did not finish high school! At four years of age gobbling a marshmallow now v. waiting for two later is twice as good a predictor of later SAT scores than is IQ. Poor impulse control is also a better predictor of later delinquency than is IQ. Obviously there's a strong correlation between IQ and impulse control. People who do well in life have lots of both, and vice versa for those who don't do well. Sociologists have regaled us for years with their theories as to the causes of poverty: lack of education, structural causes, racism. But it seems that, at least where opportunity exists, the reason for differences in income and wealth is that the poor have high impulsivity.
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A Review of Parenting Groups
Just about any parent knows the joys and challenges raising kid. Many times that parents can use some help from those who have been there. That's where parenting groups come in. They are exactly what they sound like: a group of parents (or grandparents, aunts and uncles, siblings, caretakers, etc) who are raising a child and that assemble together along with others who are involved in the process of parenting such as educators, social services people, and policymakers for the benefit of the community.
Many of these groups and are specifically organized to cater to the parents of children with disabilities such as autism, or Down's syndrome. Some parenting groups are organized for gay or lesbian parents, while others still have no particular interest other than to support each other. Parenting groups are usually formed of people who live in close proximity of each other, though with the advance of Internet technology now many more support groups are starting to be formed worldwide. Distance is no longer an issue. The size of the parenting groups can vary greatly but it is usually better to not make them so they that they become impersonal.
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One of the benefits about them is that they provide parents with training and understanding in meeting the challenges of parenthood. A great many people respond quite well when they receive promotional support and the role of parent is certainly no exception. You could argue that it is the most important job in the world, and in my opinion you would win that argument hands down.
Typical activities in a group might include talking and listening to each other's problems and solutions, making new friendships, distributing helpful information, arranging for speakers on various topics, or even setting up respite care or babysitting arrangements. Many times parenting groups are the voices of those individuals will have no other forum in which to speak.
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The way it is set up is that parents are allowed to express themselves and tell the rest of the group what's on their mind. This can be particularly helpful in special parenting groups (such as groups helping disabled children) and it shows each member that many people deal with similar situations. Sometimes in situations where parents are raising disabled children or raising children in a gay household, the proper degree of support is usually not be reached because many don't understand the challenges involved unless they actually experience them for themselves. Rather than cutting oneself off, it is certainly easier to seek out those individuals who share your same experiences and can be helpful. Parenting groups can be extremely effective in accomplishing this.
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