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by Joshua Freedman, Massimiliano Ghini, MBA
Many times the books on leadership focused on systems, management, etc., not taking into account the complex (and powerful!) system of our emotions. Josh Freedman integrate much of the new neuroscience with a comprehensive look and analysis of how people can make successful change by honoring the people involved, integrating emotional intelligence skills, in conjunction with keen business sense.
There is so much to offer in this book, it is like reading an"Operational Manual" in each chapter. This is a must read for those who are looking for ways to change, starting from the inside!
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Joshua Freedman, author of "Inside Change"
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The research says it takes around six seconds for those molecules of emotion to get absorbed back into your body after you've had a reaction. For someone to recognize the feeling of compassion -- and it was around six seconds.
Thus, Joshua Freedman's organization was named "Six Seconds"
It takes six seconds to manage anger.
It takes six seconds to create compassion.
It takes six seconds to change the world.
There is science behind the name and the flood that is triggered, delivered, and absorbed in about six seconds of even emotion. Understanding Emotional Intelligence in Six Seconds.
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Index of Articles about Emotional Intelligience
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Why You Need Coaching to Learn Emotional Intelligence
Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to recognize your feelings and those of others, to motivate yourself, and to manage emotions well in yourself and others. (Goleman, 1995).
EQ can be learned, so of course we're interested in how to measure it. Many of the tests are self-report, meaning individuals are asked to rate themselves in different categories.
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The assessment Goleman created, the Emotional Competence Inventory (ECI) assesses 20 emotional competencies.
It's probably already occurred to you that someone who isn't very high in EQ wouldn't be able to assess their own EQ very well, because it takes awareness.
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In fact one of the scales on the ECI is called Accurate Self Assessment, and measures how aware the person is of their own strengths and weaknesses.
And, yes, it turns out in a study done by Michelle Burckle, that those who scored low in Accurate Self Assessment had much larger gaps between their views of themselves and other's views of them.
And this is interesting - those who scored high in Accurate Self Assessment rate themselves slightly less emotionally intelligent than they are perceived. And conversely, those low in Accurate Self Assessment tend to view themselves as more emotionally intelligent than others do. Ms. Burckle concluded that self-assessments alone could be misleading, and multi-rater assessments would be more desirable in evaluating emotional intelligence. I believe one could also conclude that a coach is a necessary part of the mix - to have the objectivity to gather the data, use the multi-rater assessments, observe the person in action, and help them learn with feedback. The most salient result of the research was that we aren't good at assessing our own emotional intelligence, and it follows that we also would not be good, alone, at changing it, observing the difference, and getting it right.
©Susan Dunn, MA Clinical Psychology, The EQ Coach, http://www.susandunn.cc . Emotional intelligence coaching for all areas of your life; affordable EQ coach training ( http://www.eqcoach.net ); resources: distance learning; ebooks ( http://www.webstrategies.cc/ebooklibrary.html ). Mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc for free ezine.
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Index of More Articles about EQ and Relationships
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